One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
Last week inside Project Self Worth, we talked about masculinity; healthy vs toxic self-proclaimed “alphas”. 🙄 The difference between the chest-beating, podcast-y, “submit to me, woman” fuckwits and the men that feel safe, grounded, solid. 👌🏻 The kind that doesn’t need to dominate to feel like a man. After watching the circus on Louis Theroux’s recent doco The Manosphere, it would be very easy to believe those toxic voices represent men as a whole. They don’t; they’re just louder.…
I’ve been blamed by more than one person for being the cause for their relationship ending. And I’m totally fine with it. Because it has nothing to do with cheating – it’s because I’ve been their partners’ coach and/or energy worker/Reiki teacher. My absolute passion in life is helping my clients to fulfil their potential; to become the best version of themselves, clearing whatever is holding them back, healing their past trauma, and figuring out whatever their version of…
Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
I once heard a podcast interviewee share her story of overcoming a challenge and she said: “If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? 🧐 Where you ignored your gut feeling and intuition, only to be kicked in the butt by it later? Hearing that sentence definitely caused me to reflect on many such times in my own life where I’d ignored my gut feeling, only to…