I read a beautiful quote the other day; “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” —David W. Augsburger Active listening and really hearing what the other person is saying is a skill we can take for granted. For a lot of people I work with, they’ve felt unheard for a lot of their lives. This can lead to them shutting down and not bothering…
I see you. You’re the one that sees the potential in everyone. You’re the one that gives people leeway for how they’re behaving, because you know the shit they went through in the past. You know that people usually only hurt people when they are also hurting deep down. You let them off when they behave badly, because you see the pain in them and know they didn’t really mean it. One day…
I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on my past relationships, learning the lessons I was given along the way. Between the ages of 17 and 38, a good chunk of those years were spent in relationships where I was cheated on many times, manipulated, coercively controlled, financially and emotionally abused, deprived of my liberty at times and slowly but surely turned into a shell of my former self with a very broken heart. When I…
Today I paid my deposit on my second block of land, not far from the beach. I’ve been itching to build again since I built my first home by the ocean in 2015/16. But rewind from here to the end of 2018, and I felt like I was in a hole. I’d been in a long term relationship where I’d been taken advantage of financially for a very long time. I found myself with my house in mortgage…
I read an amazing post today written by a survivor of an abusive relationship which I really resonated with. She talked about her behaviours in that relationship that other people would have judged her for – drinking to self-medicate, feeling unhappy, not being her best self. She said that some friends didn’t get it as they didn’t see the lie she was living, with others seeing him as Mr Nice Guy and her the Drunken Idiot. …
I was listening to the Ed Mylett Show the other day where Ed interviewed Dean Gratsiosi and the episode was SO good with so many takeaways that I wanted to share. The guys had a good chat where they distilled down their top tips for living a happy and successful life; here’s my fave takeaways from the show about their blueprint for happiness. HAPPINESS COMES FROM STRETCHING OURSELVES Ed and Dean both live the kind of…