I get emails and messages all the time saying “OMG woman, I feel like you’re speaking directly to me”! My fave is one long term client and friend who says “Carly, you’re in my brain again” 😂😂😂 You know why this is? Because I am! With so many of the things I write about, I was once there too. 🥹 Abusive, codependent, toxic relationships. 💔 So broke I couldn’t buy loo roll one week. Being a people pleaser, saying…
We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk shit about you to others. Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way. Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires. 🧛♀️ Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the…
#reflection I’m so grateful to myself. Grateful I worked so hard at working on building my sense of self worth, self love + self esteem after I let partners who didn’t deserve my love tear it to shreds. Grateful I kept building my self love when I met Cam because I felt panicky letting his amazing kind of love in. I didn’t/couldn’t trust it at first. After 20 years of challenging relationships where I was let down over +…
I was listening to a podcast the other day + they were talking about how to build stronger relationships. 💪🏻 Can’t for the life of me remember who I was listening to so won’t paste the link here but the interviewee said he + his wife ask this question of each other regularly: “How can I love you today?” 💕 I thought this was such a cool question to ask your partner, so I’ve started doing…
I was lucky enough not to grow up like this, but a lot of peeps I know did. Did you grow up in a home where constant yelling was seen as normal? 🗣️ While this may be common, it’s not normal. This way of communicating activates our nervous system into “fight, flight or freeze” mode. 😳 This will turn affect how you handle conflict as an adult, especially in your own relationships. If…
I saw this beautiful piece yesterday on a friends page + she was happy for me to share this, thank you Kelly 🫶🏻 ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. 😳 Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. 🫥 Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared…