Last week I was chatting with a friend who is on a break from her boyfriend. She was having a hard time dealing with it and was wanting to heal her pain, so I explained a process to her that I’ve found really helpful in the past. It’s called ho’oponopono and it’s a Hawaiian mantra for reparation, healing and forgiveness. The process is really simple ~ you bring to mind a certain situation or memory…
I was listening to an awesome Lewis Howes podcast recently where the interviewee was describing the reactions of narcissists to certain things. One of the things she said was “never tell a narcissist your good news first”. Tell your cheerleaders first – the people in your life who love and support you unconditionally so you can continue to feel good and celebrate for a while. The reason for this is that they’ll turn any bit…
How often do you have positive convos with your partner about your relationship? A lot of couples nit pick and whinge at each other about what they feel the other person is doing wrong or not doing enough of. Do you find yourself doing this in your own relationship? Most people are more than happy to point out what we perceive to be our partners flaws, while getting defensive about our own when they are…
Life is full of Negative Nancy’s isn’t it? Peeps who are always willing to dish out their “expert” opinion on how you should live your life. Reflect on who you’re surrounded by in life at the moment; are they helping or hindering you? Do they support you in your goals or do they cock-block you? Over the years I’ve diligently decluttered the critical shitheads from my life and now I’m in a space where nobody…
I was listening to a Mathew Hussey podcast the other day (amazing dude who talks all things relationships, check him out if you haven’t already). He was talking about how many of us micro-dose on our ex after a break up. I know I’ve defo been guilty of this in the past. When you break up with someone you still have strong feelings for, or they break up with you, it can be easy to…
No, I don’t mean you actually dating your kid. When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our…