That subtle feeling that you get when something isn’t quite right can be easier to dismiss than to spend time reflecting on. 🤔 But learning how to listen to that “off” feeling without panic or self-doubt is a skill. Instead of ignoring it, justifying it, gaslighting yourself or rushing to fix it, try asking yourself some curious questions instead: “Am I responding to what’s actually happening right now, or to who I’m afraid of upsetting?” …
I often hear my clients say they’re “confused” about whatever situation it is that they’re struggling with at the time. 😵💫 My answer is always the same. I honestly don’t believe in “confusion” – not when it comes to relationships anyway, which is most often when this word comes up in conversation. I believe “confusion” is more of a cop-out, a bullshit excuse you tell yourself when you don’t want to confront the truth that your intuition is showing…
You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…
Ever feel like you’ve read all the self-help books, journalled until you got RSI, and sat through therapy sessions nodding along… but still feel like you’re dealing with the same old shit? 💩 Yeah. You’re not the only one, legend. That’s because there are some sneaky AF emotional patterns that may be keeping you stuck. 😣 They’re subtle, quiet, and disguised as “normal” – but they’ll keep you spinning in circles until you drag them into the light. Here…
My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…