I was listening to my coach Breanna May’s podcast the other day (shoutout to Bre) and she was talking about what happens when people are stuck. She quoted Tony Robbins, who said “the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself”. This is soooo true. One of my all time favourite questions to ask my clients when they’re stuck on literally anything is: “if you 100% loved, honoured, trusted and respected…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 
Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
Recently I shared the quote: “Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you’ve been hurt. But not many people talk about how hard it is to trust YOURSELF when you’ve had your gut instincts, values and convictions skilfully undermined in a relationship where you’ve been coercively controlled.” Up until I met my amazing fiancé Cam in 2020, I had a history of relationships where I’d been love bombed, gaslighted, manipulated, coercively controlled and emotionally, mentally…
Many moons ago when I lived in London, I stumbled upon a random house party with a group of mates. It was the early hours of the morning and I don’t think anyone was being their best self. 
My friend looked over at a guy we didn’t know and instantly judged him, saying how boring he looked. I told her not to judge a book by its cover (after all, it was around 6am!) and to go over…
I was listening to a podcast the other day + they were talking about how to build stronger relationships. 
Can’t for the life of me remember who I was listening to so won’t paste the link here but the interviewee said he + his wife ask this question of each other regularly: “How can I love you today?” 
I thought this was such a cool question to ask your partner, so I’ve started doing…
We live in a culture of apologising for who we are; the British especially are excellent at apologising for no reason at all. 
How often do you apologise for… 
asking questions 
not being available all the time 
your feelings vocalising your needs 
outgrowing a place, person or situation 
your accomplishments 
not looking presentable 
doing things that make you happy 
having boundaries 
having a messy house…
