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Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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Survive holiday conflict without losing your shit 💩

The Christmas holidays are already in full swing with end of year work parties galore. 🎄 The time of year when everyone pretends they’re having magical, heart-warming moments when really all they want to do is curl up in bed and avoid everyone, and half the population is actually one passive-aggressive comment away from flipping a table and throat punching that relative they can’t stand. 🤜 If the build up to Christmas and the ensuing family gatherings or relationship…

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Where are you abandoning yourself?

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔 You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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What do you need to feel safe?

Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…

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Get your shit together in 2025!

Day 8, 2025. Did you set any resolutions at the start of the year? ✍🏻 How are they going? Chances are, not very well. 🤔 Rather than set resolutions each year, why not focus on getting your shit together in general? How long has it been now that you’ve been thinking of changing your career, healing your past, working on (or ending) your relationship, prioritising your health and fitness, {insert desired goal here}? If not now, then when? Things…

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