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Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

  Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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Be like a buffalo when facing a storm

  I was listening to a Matthew Hussey podcast this week and he was interviewing an expert on grief and heartbreak. ❤️‍🩹  This expert was the only grief expert who has also studied buffalo. 🦬  What he noticed was that when a storm is approaching, buffalo will head towards the storm instead of away from it. 🌧️      By doing this, they face the challenge head on and don’t prolong any potential suffering.  He likened this to how we…

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I don’t know who I am anymore: the death of identity

As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore.   The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people.   Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit.   We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line.   Maybe we suddenly…

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