When I first started working for myself (and for many years into my biz, to be honest), I made myself available to my clients WAY more than I should have. Back then I was a “helper” type, which I still am, but a helper type without boundaries means having zero boundaries on your time, space and energy and easily shifting from helper into rescuer/enabler. 🫣 When you’re always available for calls, texts, voice notes, the “can I pick your…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
I’ve been practicing energy work and teaching Reiki for over 20 years now, and I see keeping on top of my energy hygiene as being as important as brushing my teeth and showering every day. 🚿 🪥 WHAT IS ENERGY HYGIENE? It’s the regular practices you use to keep your energy, mood, nervous system, physical and mental health and emotional state clear, grounded, and not bogged down by everyone else’s shite. If I hadn’t kept on top of my…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…