Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔 You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Ever tried following a recipe but forgot the main ingredient? 🧑🍳 Like making banana bread without bananas? Or sangria without wine? (aka fruit salad…why even bother!). Well, that’s exactly what most people are doing with their lives. They’re trying to “be happy” without the key ingredient: self-love. And the result? A hot mess that tastes like burnt toast and regret. 🥵 MY RECEIPE FOR A FULFILLED LIFE Let’s break it down, MasterChef style: Ingredients: 🥰 2 cups of self-love…
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…
Social media: the land of cat videos, inspirational quotes, and people oversharing their breakfast smoothies. 🐈 It can be fun, inspiring, even educational… and it can also be a giant energy-sucking black hole that leaves you feeling like you need a lie-down and a therapist. The problem isn’t social media itself. It’s how much we let it run our lives as well as using it as a tool to numb-out (and avoid what’s really going on in our…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…