“Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐 My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🕳️ I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…
You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…
As part of my Project Self Worth program I run weekly live group coaching calls with my members and they’re able to ask questions for us to go through on the call. Recently, one of my members asked: “I have a question after leaving the relationship. I know I’m doing well but I’m pretty sure my nervous system is really struggling and I’m emotionally burnt out. I’ve got nothing in the tank and am really struggling with the energy…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
I often find myself working with clients who have never learned how to appropriately identify their emotions. 🥹 They put their emotions in two buckets – bad (angry and sad) or good (happy). Our emotions are much more complex than this and it can be helpful here to refer to the wheel of emotions to explore what you’re feeling in a much deeper way. For example, you may think that you’re feeling angry, but there are…
Are you aware of the power of the words you’re using day in and day out? 🗣️ I was listening to my coach talk about this on her podcast The Mind School where she was interviewing a psychologist who said the term “experiencing depression” instead of “struggling with depression“. A lot of people wouldn’t pick up on the intentional change in wording there, but this is something I do too. By changing the way you word things, you’re changing…