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Coercive Control – The frog that slowly boils to death

  It was November 2018.    I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping.   I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 🐚   It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…

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Are you ignoring the small changes that could hurt you?

  Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable. 😞  They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a long period of time.  The situation they’re in never starts how it ends. Take the example of an abusive relationship. If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship. It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what…

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Exciting News! 🤩

  EXCITING NEWS! 🤩 Exciting News! 🤩  I’m excited to have just qualified as a NEUROFIT Certified Trainer. Nervous system regulation is something I’ve become increasingly aware of over the years, for me personally but also for my clients. I’m really keen to watch the positive shifts for those I work with as well as for my own life. Having spent 12 years now living with chronic pain and still healing from the accumulation of years worth of trauma and…

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Don’t let anyone take you back to a level you’ve already levelled up from

    I’ve been speaking to a few clients this week about how they’ve found themselves in another abusive relationship after recovering from their last one. 😖    We leave a shell of our former selves. 🐚 s   We get strong again. 💪🏻   Then we attract another partner who starts using the same kind of behaviours. 😳   Listen to the red flags! 🚩    When you’re strong, do what you need to do to keep you strong.…

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How I survived leaving toxic relationships ☠️

    Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us.    I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶‍🌫️   Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person.   Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…

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Are you a boiling frog?

    Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable.   They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a considerable period of time.   The situation they’re in never starts how it ends.   Take the example of an abusive relationship.   If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship.   It starts with subtle things at first –…

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