When I met Lyn in March 2025, she had been agoraphobic for around 5 years and barely left her room during that time. 🥺 She was estranged from her family, had survived abusive relationships, was living with complex PTSD after significant grief and loss, had very little support outside of her doctor and psychologist, and certainly wasn’t living the life she wanted. We initially had a video call to discuss her needs and a way forward. She has since…
Over the last couple of years, the content I’ve been putting out has focused much more on educating people about unhealthy, toxic and abusive relationships (whatever label you decide to put on it). With that has come an abundance of trolls – plenty of fake accounts leaving shite comments on my posts. GOOD. 😂 My coaches have always taught me to celebrate the haters, because it means I’m getting somewhere. There’s a growing army of people out there (men…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Recently I’ve had a couple of clients talking about how they’re managing their blended families when there appears to be a vast difference in how both parents parent the kids with their new sets of partners. When you have a couple who are parenting who are very self-aware, they are also very aware of how every little thing they do, conversation they have and response or reaction they have to their kids can be affirming or damaging. 🥺 I…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…