One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Recently I’ve had a couple of clients talking about how they’re managing their blended families when there appears to be a vast difference in how both parents parent the kids with their new sets of partners. When you have a couple who are parenting who are very self-aware, they are also very aware of how every little thing they do, conversation they have and response or reaction they have to their kids can be affirming or damaging. 🥺 I…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…
Last week inside Project Self Worth, we talked about masculinity; healthy vs toxic self-proclaimed “alphas”. 🙄 The difference between the chest-beating, podcast-y, “submit to me, woman” fuckwits and the men that feel safe, grounded, solid. 👌🏻 The kind that doesn’t need to dominate to feel like a man. After watching the circus on Louis Theroux’s recent doco The Manosphere, it would be very easy to believe those toxic voices represent men as a whole. They don’t; they’re just louder.…