A while ago I shared a quote: “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” ~ Anna Taylor I had a comment on that post from one of my coaching clients which said; “How do we set boundaries Carly?” I thought that was such a great question worthy of its own blog,…
As the world moves on from the 2020 pandemic, we continue to experience a global crisis in our homes – domestic abuse. During May 2020 SBS focused on the family violence crisis in Australia, with a three part documentary series “See What You Made Me Do” based on Jess Hill’s book of the same title (highly recommended this book, it’s an incredible but disturbing read). The series explores one of the most complex and urgent issues of our time…
Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s. Read it here if you missed it: I wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 😳 Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it! Here’s my 5 tips to getting started. AWARENESS 😳 The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns…
I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 😳 ⚡️ Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives. While they may seem successful…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
Last week I got the following email via the contact form on my website: “All this advice, advice, advice! Why doesn’t anyone EVER acknowledge the limitations put upon us by those who control the narrative? Those who make the laws and decide our options? It’s near to impossible to create the life you want when society decides it for you and expects you to toe the line? I’m all for making my dreams come true… if only “they” would…