Ok, so thank fuck MAFS is almost over! Yes I know, it’s massively edited but there are some real lessons we can still learn here about relationships. 
I got up to speed with the episodes this week and the relationship I want to focus on is Paul and Carina. Carina – what a stunningly beautiful person inside and out. 
She comes across as extremely family oriented with strong values relating to loyalty, trust and having her partner’s back.…
I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 
My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…
Recently I posted a story about the four relationships I’ve had in my life that were abusive in some way, and unhealthy in many ways. 
It was called “Coercive Control: The Frog That Slowly Boils To Death”. 
I’ve had a few emails from women since then telling me they’ve been wanting to leave their relationship for a while, that they need to get out but they just don’t know how. 
They’re a shell…
Have you ever looked back at a moment in time and KNOWN it was the moment your entire life changed? Well, consider this a sign that change is well and truly on the way. A BIG FLASHING NEON SIGN. 
Back in 2019, I was a complete shell of myself after yet another failed relationship. 
After years of abusive relationships with narcissists, putting myself last, having shit boundaries and not loving or respecting myself, I didn’t…
It was November 2018. I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping. I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 
It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…
Last week I had a car accident & it was just another thing that highlighted the difference between my amazing relationship with Hot Fiancé vs my unhealthy relationships in the past. In my past relationships my ex would make it all about what a hassle it was for him, even when an accident wasn’t at all my fault. I wouldn’t want to call him or put him out in any way so I’d soldier on alone as best I…
