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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

    “Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚  All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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The red flags starter pack 🚩

  Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋‍♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life.  The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷  If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…

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Myth busters: 6 Toxic relationships lies that keep you stuck💣

  ✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…

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Another MAFS brain dump #sorrynotsorry

Ok, so thank fuck MAFS is almost over!  Yes I know, it’s massively edited but there are some real lessons we can still learn here about relationships. ❤️‍🩹  I got up to speed with the episodes this week and the relationship I want to focus on is Paul and Carina. Carina – what a stunningly beautiful person inside and out. 😍 She comes across as extremely family oriented with strong values relating to loyalty, trust and having her partner’s back.…

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MAFS, Coercive control and dickheads

  I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 🤔 My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…

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