Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
I once overheard a female prisoner saying this to another prisoner and it’s stuck with me ever since. 😔 There are women out there who’ve been brainwashed, manipulated and controlled to the extent that they believe if their partner physically assaults them, they do it out of love. 💔 The cycle of trauma bonding is so real in this type of belief. WHAT IS TRAUMA BONDING? Contrary to what many believe, trauma bonding isn’t about bonding over shared…
I seem to be having a lot of conversations lately about codependent relationships. Firstly, it’s important to know that even strong, independent people end up in codependent relationships. I know this first hand after being in many codependent relationships myself, even though I consider myself a very independent person. WHERE DOES IT ALL START? As a kid, if you’ve experienced the following things it leaves you way more likely to find yourself in codependent relationships as an adult: 😢…
EXCITING NEWS! 🤩 Exciting News! 🤩 I’m excited to have just qualified as a NEUROFIT Certified Trainer. Nervous system regulation is something I’ve become increasingly aware of over the years, for me personally but also for my clients. I’m really keen to watch the positive shifts for those I work with as well as for my own life. Having spent 12 years now living with chronic pain and still healing from the accumulation of years worth of trauma and…
I was listening to a Matthew Hussey podcast this week and he was interviewing an expert on grief and heartbreak. ❤️🩹 This expert was the only grief expert who has also studied buffalo. 🦬 What he noticed was that when a storm is approaching, buffalo will head towards the storm instead of away from it. 🌧️ By doing this, they face the challenge head on and don’t prolong any potential suffering. He likened this to how we…
Are you a “victim,” or are you taking responsibility for your life? 🧐 I’m not talking about those who are or have been a victim of some kind of trauma. ❤️🩹 But there’s a big difference between being a victim and being a survivor and someone who likes the drama of playing the victim. So many of us THINK we’re taking responsibility for our own live’s when we aren’t really. The “victim” mentality is very subtle and it takes…