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No, you’re not overthinking: You’re ignoring signals you’ve been taught not to trust

  You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔   You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting.   You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive.   You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡   So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…

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You can’t change what you’re still pretending not to see

  Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈  Awareness is your “oh shit”…

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Things to look out for when choosing the right reiki teacher

  Back in 2005 when a friend suggested I learn Reiki 1 so I could do self-healing, I never really gave much thought about choosing a Reiki Teacher. 👩🏼‍🏫  I just googled a course at a place I wanted to go to. Job done.  But in the 20+ years I’ve been doing energy work on thousands of people, and teaching over 400 students, I’ve found it deserves soooo much more time and attention in choosing a Reiki Teacher (or practitioner…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

  Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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10 Signs you’re being manipulated

  (It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹  Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I  love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…

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