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toxic relationships

No, you’re not overthinking: You’re ignoring signals you’ve been taught not to trust

  You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔   You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting.   You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive.   You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡   So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…

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You can’t change what you’re still pretending not to see

  Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈  Awareness is your “oh shit”…

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If I had listened to myself, my life would have changed sooner

  I once heard a podcast interviewee share her story of overcoming a challenge and she said: “If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? 🧐  Where you ignored your gut feeling and intuition, only to be kicked in the butt by it later? Hearing that sentence definitely caused me to reflect on many such times in my own life where I’d ignored my gut feeling, only to…

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I don’t fix people – I help them remember who the fck they are

  I help people get unstuck. Unstuck in their relationship, life and biz; but mostly unstuck from the mask they’ve been wearing to the outside world that’s been hiding their true, authentic self.  The kind of stuck that keeps your soul tired and your nervous system completely fried. 🫣 What I do best is help my peeps to clear the shit that’s been quietly running in the background that’s negatively impacting their lives; the patterns, limiting beliefs, conditioning, past trauma,…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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When love leaves you broke: How financial abuse nearly cost me everything

  “Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐  My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🪏 🕳️  I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…

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