toxic relationships – Coach Carly

Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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The real reason Christmas is always full of drama in toxic relationships

When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳 There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙 The weeks leading up to his birthday? He’d sulk for most of it. 🙄 Christmas was the week after his birthday – and that was no better. I love Christmas in Australia – time at the…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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The red flags starter pack 🚩

Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋‍♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life. The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷 If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…

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Is someone you love in a toxic relationship?

Recently I had the mother of a woman experiencing family violence join my Project Self Worth program, where I educate women about healthy vs unhealthy relationships and show them my step-by-step guide on how to heal from abuse and find healthy love. ❤️ All the other women on my program are in/healing from abusive relationships, but this member isn’t – her daughter is. I’m loving the messages I’m receiving from her with her many light bulb moments, recognising how…

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Big exciting news for you amazing legends! 🤩

Have you ever looked back at a moment in time and KNOWN it was the moment your entire life changed? Well, consider this a sign that change is well and truly on the way. A BIG FLASHING NEON SIGN. 💠 Back in 2019, I was a complete shell of myself after yet another failed relationship. 🫥 After years of abusive relationships with narcissists, putting myself last, having shit boundaries and not loving or respecting myself, I didn’t…

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