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Something I wish I knew before healing❤️‍🩹

  I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…

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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

    “Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚  All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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Myth busters: 6 Toxic relationships lies that keep you stuck💣

  ✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…

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Coercive Control – The frog that slowly boils to death

  It was November 2018.    I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping.   I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 🐚   It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…

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And then one day, we stop being the person we used to be

  It’s subtle at first, the way they change you. 💔    The way they pick on the things you wear.   How you look.   Who you hang out with.   Criticising how you cook, how you clean, how you take the bins out.   Telling you their friends think you’re “too much.”   You’ve buried yourself in work, another thing they criticise you for. 😢   Work has become your respite, the place where you can be yourself. …

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The power of vulnerability

    Recently I seem to be having a lot of conversations with strong, warrior women in my life who are going through really difficult times and in huge conflict about showing their vulnerability.   Do you consider yourself to be a fearless warrior?💪🏻   Yeah, me too.   The problem with that is that we’re often reluctant to admit we need help, and even more reluctant to ask for it 🫠   Back in 2010, I was in a…

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