There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…
“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …
✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…
It was November 2018. I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping. I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 🐚 It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…
It’s subtle at first, the way they change you. 💔 The way they pick on the things you wear. How you look. Who you hang out with. Criticising how you cook, how you clean, how you take the bins out. Telling you their friends think you’re “too much.” You’ve buried yourself in work, another thing they criticise you for. 😢 Work has become your respite, the place where you can be yourself. …