After all the trauma you’ve endured and how much you’ve grown from it, you might start telling yourself “I’ve got this,” when you realise you’re one of the most independent people you know. It seems like confidence on the surface because you’re a strong, capable and independent person. 💪🏻 But what can seem like confidence may actually be the result of your nervous system learning that relying on other people wasn’t safe. Your brain has adapted because you were…
Around 80% of our thoughts are negative. 🙄 Does that number surprise you? In my twenties I did some volunteering as an Appropriate Adult for vulnerable adults being interviewed by the Police. (Side note: a lot of my mates will have a giggle at me having the title “Appropriate Adult”) 😆 As part of that training we learned about mental health and anxiety provoking thoughts that can lead to behaviour change during interviews. As homework we were told to…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
Since I was at school I was always the one my mates would turn to for a brain dump. They’d vent to me and I’d seem to know what to say to help them feel better. ❤️🩹 It felt good for me too, so it seemed only natural to get into a career where I was helping others. My identity was totally enmeshed with being the helper, the fixer… the one everyone turned to with their pain, their…
13 years ago I was… 🇬🇧 living in freezing cold London dreaming of living in Australia 🌧️ clinically depressed 🤯 stuck as a carer for an abusive psychotic partner 💰 broke 😩 in despair 😔 couldn’t see a way out at times 🤯 living in survival mode each day 🥺 disconnected from a lot of friends, family and most of all myself These days I’m… 🇦🇺 living in sunny Australia 😌 mentally healthy 🥰 with…
I was listening to a Lewis Howes School of Greatness Podcast today which was a mix of a bunch of different people he has interviewed over the years about the habits of successful people. One snippet was of an interview with Tony Robbins – one of my faves. Tony said: “Your brain wasn’t designed to make you happy. Your brain was designed to make you survive. Happiness is YOUR job, and it’s a decision.” …