I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Social media: the land of cat videos, inspirational quotes, and people oversharing their breakfast smoothies. 🐈 It can be fun, inspiring, even educational… and it can also be a giant energy-sucking black hole that leaves you feeling like you need a lie-down and a therapist. The problem isn’t social media itself. It’s how much we let it run our lives as well as using it as a tool to numb-out (and avoid what’s really going on in our…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…
I’m reading a book called The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel at the moment and love his quote: “The most important part of every plan is planning on your plan not going to plan.” This quote got me thinking about a client I once had while working as a Probation Officer in London. 🧐 Picture this: a guy with a violent past, anger issues, and anxiety so intense that he needed to plan his day down to the…
I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 😳 ⚡️ Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives. While they may seem successful…
During stressful times it can be really easy for us to stop doing anything that keeps us in balance. I cannot emphasise enough the importance of keeping on top of your energy hygiene during these times as a way of helping you stay grounded and to help you regulate your emotions. If you feel in need of an energy tune up, drop me a message and let’s chat. Sessions can be done in person or remotely via distant healing.…