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Love yourself enough to let real love in

  #reflection I’m so grateful to myself. Grateful I worked so hard at working on building my sense of self worth, self love + self esteem after I let partners who didn’t deserve my love tear it to shreds.  Grateful I kept building my self love when I met Cam because I felt panicky letting his amazing kind of love in. I didn’t/couldn’t trust it at first. After 20 years of challenging relationships where I was let down over +…

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He’s my reflection

    I N T I M A C Y ~ into me, I see ❤️   After what felt like a lifetime of failed relationships, I met my amazing fiancé Cam when I was 38.   In our last few years together I’ve realised how much all my relationships have been a reflection of how I feel about myself and what I need to heal.    My past relationships were a reflection of;   🥹 how I put others…

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How I survived leaving toxic relationships ☠️

    Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us.    I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶‍🌫️   Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person.   Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…

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From codependent relationships to healthy love

    I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships.    A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔   We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way.    We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…

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Self love vs self care

    Back in early 2011, I found myself back in depression soon after thinking I’d recovered from it.   2010 was a pretty terrible year for me in many ways.   I slipped a disc in my back, was signed off work for 4 months, left a toxic relationship, ended up in depression and ultimately moved to Australia to fulfil a lifelong dream.   I think a lot of us who move to another country end up with the blues at some…

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Love yourself so much that when you get treated like sh1t you recognise it

    How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself?   If you honoured your needs each day?   If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment?   I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to.   I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too.   There can…

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