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Feeling like dog’s balls? Here’s your permission slip to stop “BEING STRONG”

  I was chatting to a friend the other day who was really in struggle town that day and for the previous few days. Nothing had seemed to be going right with her health, biz, money, relationship… anything really.  She was giving herself shit because she knows all these amazing coaching and healing tools to be able to snap herself out of a funk… but sometimes this leads to spiritual bypassing when what we really need is to just FEEL…

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Where are you abandoning yourself?

  Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔  You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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The red flags starter pack 🚩

  Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋‍♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life.  The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷  If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…

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I was shaking as I logged into his email account…

  My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍  I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…

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Why your life tastes like sh*t without self-love

  Ever tried following a recipe but forgot the main ingredient? 🧑‍🍳  Like making banana bread without bananas? Or sangria without wine? (aka fruit salad…why even bother!). Well, that’s exactly what most people are doing with their lives. They’re trying to “be happy”  without the key ingredient: self-love. And the result?  A hot mess that tastes like burnt toast and regret. 🥵  MY RECEIPE FOR A FULFILLED LIFE Let’s break it down, MasterChef style: Ingredients: 🥰 2 cups of self-love…

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