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When something feels off in your relationship (But you can’t explain why)

  It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼‍♀️  No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔  As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…

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Before the new year begins, read this

    Hey legend, As this year comes to a close, I want to offer you something different. 💫 Not a pep talk, not a push, not a “new year, new you” speech. Just a pause. Time to reflect. 🧐  There’s a lot of noise at this time of year telling you to reflect harder, decide faster and to know exactly what you want next. But here’s what I see, again and again, in my work with hundreds of clients…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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I used to think love was enough 💔

  There was a time in my younger years that I honestly believed that love would be enough to make a relationship work. #naive So when the red flags started appearing in my relationships, I ignored them because I honestly believed that love would overcome any issue. 🚩 I was wrong: love isn’t enough. 🥺 Especially when you’re in love with someone who isn’t right for you. Who can’t communicate and isn’t willing to work on themselves. Who doesn’t love…

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When love leaves you broke: How financial abuse nearly cost me everything

  “Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐  My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🪏 🕳️  I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…

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The real reason Christmas is always full of drama in toxic relationships

  When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳  There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙  The weeks leading up to his birthday? He’d sulk for most of it. 🙄 Christmas was the week after his birthday – and that was no better.  I love Christmas in Australia – time at the…

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