As the world moves on from the 2020 pandemic, we continue to experience a global crisis in our homes – domestic abuse. During May 2020 SBS focused on the family violence crisis in Australia, with a three part documentary series “See What You Made Me Do” based on Jess Hill’s book of the same title (highly recommended this book, it’s an incredible but disturbing read). The series explores one of the most complex and urgent issues of our time…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable. 😞 They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a long period of time. The situation they’re in never starts how it ends. Take the example of an abusive relationship. If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship. It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what…
I once overheard a female prisoner saying this to another prisoner and it’s stuck with me ever since. 😔 There are women out there who’ve been brainwashed, manipulated and controlled to the extent that they believe if their partner physically assaults them, they do it out of love. 💔 The cycle of trauma bonding is so real in this type of belief. WHAT IS TRAUMA BONDING? Contrary to what many believe, trauma bonding isn’t about bonding over shared…
I saw this quote on a very old little box in a very old, very grand lodge I stayed at in Scotland recently. 🏴 “A woman is only a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke” is a line that appears in The Betrothed, a poem by Rudyard Kipling. In the poem, the speaker considers Maggie’s appearance and what she might be like at 50, and compares her to other women. He…
Maybe you’ve been feeling a little (or a lot!) stuck, anxious, overwhelmed, like a shell of your former self and unsure what action to take next? 🥹 Have you ever looked back at a moment in time and KNOWN it was the moment your entire life changed? Well, consider this a sign that change is well and truly on the way. A BIG FLASHING NEON SIGN. 💠 I know. It’s a fucking big promise, but stay with me, because…