We’re taught to fear our breakdowns. To see every crack as a flaw. Every emotional collapse as failure. But what if the breakdown isn’t the end… what if it’s the beginning? I was in a workshop years ago where a psychologist spoke about Post Traumatic Growth – and showed an image of a shattered bowl repaired with gold, called Kintsukuroi. It’s the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer, not to hide the damage, but…
We live in a world obsessed with fixing things. 🔨 Broken nails, broken phones, broken relationships. Fixing our faces so we don’t age. Fixing ourselves with endless personal development. But some things aren’t fixable – they’re fucked. 🥺 That’s not as doom and gloom as it sounds… but it IS an invitation to stop wasting your fucking time. I spent YEARS (and a fair bit of money, too) trying to fix things that were never mine to fix –…
We all have emotional baggage from our past that holds us back from achieving our goals and being our best self. ❤️🩹 One of my favourite things to do is to help others uncover what’s holding them back so they can become the best version of themselves. Out of the hundreds of tools I’ve learned along the way, forgiveness work is my number one go-to if I’m stuck. The first forgiveness technique I learned was taught to me by…
I’ve been coaching and doing energy work since 2006, and a common question I get is “how often should I have a session/treatment”? Personal development and clearing your emotional baggage is a lifetime of work. 🙌🏻 It’s an ongoing journey, not just a single point in time. Sure, you can feel significantly better after a single session. 💞 But if you’re really committed to becoming the best version of yourself, then commit to regular sessions. I’ve been working on…
Recently I shared the quote: “Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you’ve been hurt. But not many people talk about how hard it is to trust YOURSELF when you’ve had your gut instincts, values and convictions skilfully undermined in a relationship where you’ve been coercively controlled.” Up until I met my amazing fiancé Cam in 2020, I had a history of relationships where I’d been love bombed, gaslighted, manipulated, coercively controlled and emotionally, mentally…
I seem to be having a lot of conversations lately about codependent relationships. Firstly, it’s important to know that even strong, independent people end up in codependent relationships. I know this first hand after being in many codependent relationships myself, even though I consider myself a very independent person. WHERE DOES IT ALL START? As a kid, if you’ve experienced the following things it leaves you way more likely to find yourself in codependent relationships as an adult: 😢…