When I first heard “never let the unacceptable become the acceptable it really triggered a big reflection for me. 
A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. 
How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. 
How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. 
How I gave my energy…
Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s. Read it here if you missed it: I wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 
Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it! Here’s my 5 tips to getting started. AWARENESS The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns…
I get emails and messages all the time saying “OMG woman, I feel like you’re speaking directly to me”! My fave is one long term client and friend who says “Carly, you’re in my brain again” 
You know why this is? Because I am! With so many of the things I write about, I was once there too. Abusive, codependent, toxic relationships. 
So broke I couldn’t buy loo roll one week. Being a people pleaser, saying…
How much of your life do you spend doing things out of obligation? This week I’ve been reading a book called Essentialism – The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less, by Greg McKeown. He opens the book by telling a story of a businessman who was overwhelmed by how much he had on his plate. Bit by bit, he started saying no to things. He’d always been the yes man, so this was a change for those around him, but he adjusted. …