REAL healing – clearing your past baggage, challenging the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and actually learning to love yourself – will completely change your life. 🤩 Not just on a surface level, but deep in your nervous system, your relationships, your self-worth, and your peace. It’s not pretty. It’s not an instant, overnight fix. It’s a lifetime of work.. but fuck, it’s worth it. CLEARING YOUR PAST BAGGAGE Every single one of us carries emotional baggage –…
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔 You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life. The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷 If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…
My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…