We’re taught to fear our breakdowns. To see every crack as a flaw. Every emotional collapse as failure. But what if the breakdown isn’t the end… what if it’s the beginning? I was in a workshop years ago where a psychologist spoke about Post Traumatic Growth – and showed an image of a shattered bowl repaired with gold, called Kintsukuroi. It’s the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer, not to hide the damage, but…
You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…
REAL healing – clearing your past baggage, challenging the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and actually learning to love yourself – will completely change your life. 🤩 Not just on a surface level, but deep in your nervous system, your relationships, your self-worth, and your peace. It’s not pretty. It’s not an instant, overnight fix. It’s a lifetime of work.. but fuck, it’s worth it. CLEARING YOUR PAST BAGGAGE Every single one of us carries emotional baggage –…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life. The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷 If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…
My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…