Recently a conversation I was having with one of my Project Self Worth members reminded me of something my coach had said on one of her podcasts about people robbing themselves of joy. She spoke about this in the context of your past trauma leading you to protect yourself in certain ways, and how this essentially leads you to putting a cap on the amount of happiness you allow yourself to feel. 
I remember how much emotion this…
When I first heard “never let the unacceptable become the acceptable it really triggered a big reflection for me. 
A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. 
How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. 
How I gave my energy…
I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done. About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…
I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway; “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.” Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken. 
The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and grow in…
When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…
“I am at a place in my life where peace is a priority. I make deliberate life choices to protect my mental, emotional and spiritual state.” This is a great affirmation you can repeat to yourself if peace has become a goal for you. I spent most of my life always achieving, working towards the next big goal or dream. I’ve been really blessed to always do work I love, helping people get unstuck from the darkest corners of…