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Being vulnerable + knowing when to tap out is a strength

A few days ago I did my first live video in a while sharing how it’s been a shit couple of months for myself and Hot Fiance – not between us, but around us. 🥺 I’ve had this level of anxiety building at times because for around four months now I’ve been working with my team to get my business set up so that during those times that the sht hits the fan, I’ll have passive income streams in my…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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When love leaves you broke: How financial abuse nearly cost me everything

  “Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐  My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🪏 🕳️  I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…

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10 Signs you’re being manipulated

  (It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹  Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I  love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…

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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

    “Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚  All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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I was shaking as I logged into his email account…

  My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍  I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…

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