After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me. PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us. We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…
I’ve been listening to a bit of Tara Brach lately and she has a great video about how to stop the war against ourselves. She speaks about how when we’re suffering, it’s because we’re holding on too tight and need to let go. If you let go a little you’ll find a little peace. If you let go a lot, you’ll find a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you’ll be able to live your life fully. This…
Ain’t that the truth. We spend so much of our lives ruminating on past hurts or perceived failures, or worrying about the future. Our brain literally doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination. Try this little exercise right now. Imagine taking a slice of lemon and biting into it. What happened in your mouth? Did your saliva increase? Did your cheeks tighten like there was a sour taste there? Our body actually has physiological reactions to whatever our brain…
We all have emotional baggage from our past that holds us back from achieving our goals and being our best self. One of my favourite things to do is to help others uncover what’s holding them back so they can become the best version of themselves. Out of the hundreds of tools I’ve learned along the way, forgiveness work is my number one go-to if I’m stuck. The first forgiveness technique I learned was taught to me by my best…
Is your life exactly as you want it to be? The world is full of people complaining about their job/relationship/money troubles, take your pick. But the truth is that our external world is really only a mirror for our inner world and how we’re treating ourselves. Here’s a few examples: Clutter in your external environment = clutter in your brain space Feeling unloved = not loving yourself enough Feeling disrespected/used/taken for granted = not setting good personal boundaries = lack…
Kurt Vonnegut said “hate, in the long run, is about as nourishing as cyanide.”He’s so right.Are you holding on to repressed anger, bitterness, resentment or hate?Who are you directing that towards?Do you know what those kind of emotions do you your physiology, physical body and mental health when you refuse to let them go?Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person we are really hurting is ourselves. Toxic emotions can create serious…