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No, you’re not overthinking: You’re ignoring signals you’ve been taught not to trust

  You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔   You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting.   You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive.   You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡   So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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MAFS, Coercive control and dickheads

  I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 🤔 My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…

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