That subtle feeling that you get when something isn’t quite right can be easier to dismiss than to spend time reflecting on. 🤔 But learning how to listen to that “off” feeling without panic or self-doubt is a skill. Instead of ignoring it, justifying it, gaslighting yourself or rushing to fix it, try asking yourself some curious questions instead: “Am I responding to what’s actually happening right now, or to who I’m afraid of upsetting?” …
You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔 You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting. You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive. You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡 So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…
There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
I do a lot of energy treatments every week, seeing anywhere between 1-40 people across 1:1 in person treatments, distant healings and group healings, and you know what the common theme is that I find? A lack of self-love. 💔 After more than two decades working in energy healing, teaching Reiki and coaching clients through trauma-informed transformation, treating thousands of people both in person and remotely, I’ve developed a very clear pattern-recognition muscle. Energy fields don’t lie. 🤷🏼♀️ Long…
When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳 There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙 The weeks leading up to his birthday? He’d sulk for most of it. 🙄 Christmas was the week after his birthday – and that was no better. I love Christmas in Australia – time at the…