It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
I do a lot of energy treatments every week, seeing anywhere between 1-40 people across 1:1 in person treatments, distant healings and group healings, and you know what the common theme is that I find? A lack of self-love. 💔 After more than two decades working in energy healing, teaching Reiki and coaching clients through trauma-informed transformation, treating thousands of people both in person and remotely, I’ve developed a very clear pattern-recognition muscle. Energy fields don’t lie. 🤷🏼♀️ Long…
When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳 There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙 The weeks leading up to his birthday? He’d sulk for most of it. 🙄 Christmas was the week after his birthday – and that was no better. I love Christmas in Australia – time at the…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Hey legend I’ve had a bunch of newbies join my community lately so I thought it would be a good time to reintroduce myself! ☺️ What better way than to start off with a list of random shit you may not know about me… 🌎 I first came to Australia on holidays with my 15 year old sister when I was 19. We visited a few spots in Aus as part of a world trip and I knew…
Recently I posted a story about the four relationships I’ve had in my life that were abusive in some way, and unhealthy in many ways. 💔 It was called “Coercive Control: The Frog That Slowly Boils To Death”. 🐸 I’ve had a few emails from women since then telling me they’ve been wanting to leave their relationship for a while, that they need to get out but they just don’t know how. 🥺 They’re a shell…