Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
#reflection I’m so grateful to myself. Grateful I worked so hard at working on building my sense of self worth, self love and self esteem after I let partners who didn’t deserve my love tear it to shreds. 💔 Grateful I kept building my self love when I met Cam because I felt panicky letting his amazing kind of love in. 🫣 I didn’t/couldn’t trust it at first. After a history of challenging relationships where I was let down…
When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. 🧐 It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…
I saw this quote on a very old little box in a very old, very grand lodge I stayed at in Scotland recently. 🏴 “A woman is only a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke” is a line that appears in The Betrothed, a poem by Rudyard Kipling. In the poem, the speaker considers Maggie’s appearance and what she might be like at 50, and compares her to other women. He…
Sometimes I feel a deep sadness rise up in me, for all the times I let myself down. 🥺 For all the times I gave my power away to others. For all those times I kept my mouth shut while they abused me. 🫢 For all the times I failed to stand up for myself, or to speak my authentic truth. For letting them turn me into a person I didn’t like. 🫣 For giving away my energy, my…
This isn’t a question many people consider very often but it’s an important one. Do you like who you are in general? What about the person you are (or become) around certain people? 🧐 What percentage of the time are you authentically YOU? Do you even know who your authentic self is? 🥹 I’m happy to say at this stage of my life that I like myself most of the time. The times when I don’t like who I’m…