Recently I had the mother of a woman experiencing family violence join my Project Self Worth program, where I educate women about healthy vs unhealthy relationships and show them my step-by-step guide on how to heal from abuse and find healthy love. 
All the other women on my program are in/healing from abusive relationships, but this member isn’t – her daughter is. I’m loving the messages I’m receiving from her with her many light bulb moments, recognising how…
I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 
My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…
When I first heard “never let the unacceptable become the acceptable it really triggered a big reflection for me. 
A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. 
How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. 
How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. 
How I gave my energy…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 
Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
#reflection I’m so grateful to myself. Grateful I worked so hard at working on building my sense of self worth, self love and self esteem after I let partners who didn’t deserve my love tear it to shreds. 
Grateful I kept building my self love when I met Cam because I felt panicky letting his amazing kind of love in. 
I didn’t/couldn’t trust it at first. After a history of challenging relationships where I was let down…
When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…
