I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…
“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …
Are we seriously in November already? I feel like it was January last week! 😳 Cast your mind back to the start of the year… did you set any goals? How many of them have you achieved? Is there anything you could have done differently? 🧐 This is always a great time of year to reflect on the year that’s finishing up and start prepping for the year ahead. Which is why I have a special freebie for you…
I recently started reading a book for the second time called “Yes Man” by Danny Wallace. 📖 I first read this book in my 20’s when I was living in London, and the book is also set in London. This book is a hilarious, chaotic memoir about what happens when a man decides to say “yes” to literally everything for a year. After being stuck in a rut after a couple of break ups, becoming cynical, and saying “no”…
We’re taught to fear our breakdowns. To see every crack as a flaw. Every emotional collapse as failure. But what if the breakdown isn’t the end… what if it’s the beginning? I was in a workshop years ago where a psychologist spoke about Post Traumatic Growth – and showed an image of a shattered bowl repaired with gold, called Kintsukuroi. It’s the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer, not to hide the damage, but…
You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…