There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
I often hear my clients say they’re “confused” about whatever situation it is that they’re struggling with at the time. 😵💫 My answer is always the same. I honestly don’t believe in “confusion” – not when it comes to relationships anyway, which is most often when this word comes up in conversation. I believe “confusion” is more of a cop-out, a bullshit excuse you tell yourself when you don’t want to confront the truth that your intuition is showing…
Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
In a book called “A Stroke of Insight”, Dr Jill Bolte Taylor talks about how she realised, as a Doctor, that her body was suffering a stroke, and knew exactly what steps would happen in her body, witnessing it all happen from within herself. She talks about how while she was in hospital being looked after by nurses, she was totally aware of the energy they were bringing into the room. While she wasn’t able to see them or…
I once heard a podcast interviewee share her story of overcoming a challenge and she said: “If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? 🧐 Where you ignored your gut feeling and intuition, only to be kicked in the butt by it later? Hearing that sentence definitely caused me to reflect on many such times in my own life where I’d ignored my gut feeling, only to…
Recently I’ve been reading “The Diary of a CEO” by Stephen Bartlett and he wrote “an ostrich with its head in the sand is at great risk of being eaten”. He was talking about cognitive dissonance – the mind games we play with ourselves to avoid admitting what we already know. 🫣 Cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort we go through when we hold conflicting beliefs, values or attitudes; or when your actions go against your beliefs/values, creating tension. …