There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
There was a time in my younger years that I honestly believed that love would be enough to make a relationship work. #naive So when the red flags started appearing in my relationships, I ignored them because I honestly believed that love would overcome any issue. 🚩 I was wrong: love isn’t enough. 🥺 Especially when you’re in love with someone who isn’t right for you. Who can’t communicate and isn’t willing to work on themselves. Who doesn’t love…
Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…
When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳 There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙 The weeks leading up to his birthday? He’d sulk for most of it. 🙄 Christmas was the week after his birthday – and that was no better. I love Christmas in Australia – time at the…