Hey legend, Today as I write this, we are 20 days away from Christmas day.🎄 Christmas can be such a triggering time of year for many people – those who are estranged from their families, those remembering loved ones who’ve passed away, those unable to see their kids, the homeless, the addicted, the incarcerated… and many more. Loneliness and financial poverty can increase stress and exacerbate mental health issues. 🥺 The Christmas period can also…
Last week I finished up my 5 Day Love Lab Challenge. Almost 100 people signed up for this and during the challenge they had a couple of reflective questionnaires to complete. One of them in particular a lot of members found very challenging to complete, as some of the questions were very confronting. What was interesting to me (but also unsurprising, as I see this all the time), was how similar some of their answers were. One of the…
I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway; “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.” Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken. ❤️🩹 The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and grow in…
Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable. 😞 They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a long period of time. The situation they’re in never starts how it ends. Take the example of an abusive relationship. If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship. It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what…
#reflection I’m so grateful to myself. Grateful I worked so hard at working on building my sense of self worth, self love and self esteem after I let partners who didn’t deserve my love tear it to shreds. 💔 Grateful I kept building my self love when I met Cam because I felt panicky letting his amazing kind of love in. 🫣 I didn’t/couldn’t trust it at first. After a history of challenging relationships where I was let down…
I seem to be having a lot of conversations lately about codependent relationships. Firstly, it’s important to know that even strong, independent people end up in codependent relationships. I know this first hand after being in many codependent relationships myself, even though I consider myself a very independent person. WHERE DOES IT ALL START? As a kid, if you’ve experienced the following things it leaves you way more likely to find yourself in codependent relationships as an adult: 😢…