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You’re so used to managing everyone else’s emotions you have no idea what you feel anymore…

  You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words.  Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…

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Where are you abandoning yourself?

  Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔  You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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Why your life tastes like sh*t without self-love

  Ever tried following a recipe but forgot the main ingredient? 🧑‍🍳  Like making banana bread without bananas? Or sangria without wine? (aka fruit salad…why even bother!). Well, that’s exactly what most people are doing with their lives. They’re trying to “be happy”  without the key ingredient: self-love. And the result?  A hot mess that tastes like burnt toast and regret. 🥵  MY RECEIPE FOR A FULFILLED LIFE Let’s break it down, MasterChef style: Ingredients: 🥰 2 cups of self-love…

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