I once heard a podcast interviewee share her story of overcoming a challenge and she said: “If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? 🧐 Where you ignored your gut feeling and intuition, only to be kicked in the butt by it later? Hearing that sentence definitely caused me to reflect on many such times in my own life where I’d ignored my gut feeling, only to…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
Last week I had a car accident & it was just another thing that highlighted the difference between my amazing relationship with Hot Fiancé vs my unhealthy relationships in the past. In my past relationships my ex would make it all about what a hassle it was for him, even when an accident wasn’t at all my fault. I wouldn’t want to call him or put him out in any way so I’d soldier on alone as best I…
When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. 🧐 It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…