My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…
Social media: the land of cat videos, inspirational quotes, and people oversharing their breakfast smoothies. 🐈 It can be fun, inspiring, even educational… and it can also be a giant energy-sucking black hole that leaves you feeling like you need a lie-down and a therapist. The problem isn’t social media itself. It’s how much we let it run our lives as well as using it as a tool to numb-out (and avoid what’s really going on in our…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…
As part of my Project Self Worth program I run weekly live group coaching calls with my members and they’re able to ask questions for us to go through on the call. Recently, one of my members asked: “I have a question after leaving the relationship. I know I’m doing well but I’m pretty sure my nervous system is really struggling and I’m emotionally burnt out. I’ve got nothing in the tank and am really struggling with the energy…
I’m reading a book called The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel at the moment and love his quote: “The most important part of every plan is planning on your plan not going to plan.” This quote got me thinking about a client I once had while working as a Probation Officer in London. 🧐 Picture this: a guy with a violent past, anger issues, and anxiety so intense that he needed to plan his day down to the…