nervous system – Coach Carly

Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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Survive holiday conflict without losing your shit 💩

The Christmas holidays are already in full swing with end of year work parties galore. 🎄 The time of year when everyone pretends they’re having magical, heart-warming moments when really all they want to do is curl up in bed and avoid everyone, and half the population is actually one passive-aggressive comment away from flipping a table and throat punching that relative they can’t stand. 🤜 If the build up to Christmas and the ensuing family gatherings or relationship…

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10 Signs you’re being manipulated

(It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹 Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…

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You deserve a break

As I was nearing the end of my time in a day-job in Corrections In January to work in my biz full time, I got so excited about all the extra time I’d have and all the extra cool things I could do in my biz. 💫 My pattern in life has always been to totally overload myself with way too many things to do, which sometimes doesn’t seem like it’s to my detriment because I actually LOVE the…

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Something I wish I knew before healing❤️‍🩹

I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…

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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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