Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
Consistency is the key in any relationship when it comes to building trust and emotional security. If we get caught up in the early stages of a relationship and any potential love-bombing that may be going on, it can be easy to miss inconsistency creeping in. 🫣 When it finally hits you, you may feel confused and frustrated. Inconsistency can show up in unpredictable behaviour or communication patterns to create uncertainty by giving you mixed signals. 🚦 They may…
Ok, so thank fuck MAFS is almost over! Yes I know, it’s massively edited but there are some real lessons we can still learn here about relationships. ❤️🩹 I got up to speed with the episodes this week and the relationship I want to focus on is Paul and Carina. Carina – what a stunningly beautiful person inside and out. 😍 She comes across as extremely family oriented with strong values relating to loyalty, trust and having her partner’s back.…
Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s. Read it here if you missed it: I wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 😳 Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it! Here’s my 5 tips to getting started. AWARENESS 😳 The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns…
I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 😳 ⚡️ Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives. While they may seem successful…
Last week I got the following email via the contact form on my website: “All this advice, advice, advice! Why doesn’t anyone EVER acknowledge the limitations put upon us by those who control the narrative? Those who make the laws and decide our options? It’s near to impossible to create the life you want when society decides it for you and expects you to toe the line? I’m all for making my dreams come true… if only “they” would…