I’m just coming out the tail end of a gnarly chronic pain flare up that has seen my routine very off for the last few weeks. 
We went to Melbourne and travelling usually means a flare up for me due to different beds, different cars, different routine and less exercise. I was back in my routine for a few days and then it hit me again so the last week has been a write-off. 
It’s easy to…
Consistency is the key in any relationship when it comes to building trust and emotional security. If we get caught up in the early stages of a relationship and any potential love-bombing that may be going on, it can be easy to miss inconsistency creeping in. When it finally hits you, you may feel confused and frustrated. Inconsistency can show up in unpredictable behaviour or communication patterns to create uncertainty by giving you mixed signals. 
They may…
I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done. About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…
As the world moves on from the 2020 pandemic, we continue to experience a global crisis in our homes – domestic abuse. During May 2020 SBS focused on the family violence crisis in Australia, with a three part documentary series “See What You Made Me Do” based on Jess Hill’s book of the same title (highly recommended this book, it’s an incredible but disturbing read). The series explores one of the most complex and urgent issues of our time…
Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s. Read it here if you missed it: I wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 
Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it! Here’s my 5 tips to getting started. AWARENESS The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns…
I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 
Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives. While they may seem successful…