emotional – Coach Carly

Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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You’re so used to managing everyone else’s emotions you have no idea what you feel anymore…

You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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5 Silent emotional patterns keeping you stuck

Ever feel like you’ve read all the self-help books, journalled until you got RSI, and sat through therapy sessions nodding along… but still feel like you’re dealing with the same old shit? 💩 Yeah. You’re not the only one, legend. That’s because there are some sneaky AF emotional patterns that may be keeping you stuck. 😣 They’re subtle, quiet, and disguised as “normal” – but they’ll keep you spinning in circles until you drag them into the light. Here…

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I was shaking as I logged into his email account…

My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…

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Know when to go easy on yourself

I’m just coming out the tail end of a gnarly chronic pain flare up that has seen my routine very off for the last few weeks. 🫣 We went to Melbourne and travelling usually means a flare up for me due to different beds, different cars, different routine and less exercise. I was back in my routine for a few days and then it hit me again so the last week has been a write-off. 🥺 It’s easy to…

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