Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
Back in the world of Government jobs, you’d often hear the term being thrown around; “work smarter, not harder”. I always found this funny given we were all slogging our guts out under a massive workload and this seemed to be a way to make us more “productive” – so we could essentially get even more sht done in our day. I found it even funnier when they set up yet another working party to figure out how to…
Recently a coaching client asked me for tips on how she can trust her own judgement and make her own decisions. When needing to make a decision, she finds she’s unable to make one on her own without relying on others to tell her what they think she should do. 🥹 To try and get out of this habit, she’s now leaning on ChatGTP for her decisions instead. The danger in this is that by relying on others to…