anxious – Coach Carly

Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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10 Signs you’re being manipulated

(It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹 Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…

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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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Before you break 💔

There’s a moment (and if you’ve been there, you’ll know exactly what I mean) where you realise you’ve been shrinking yourself just to keep the peace. ✌️ You’ve dimmed your light, silenced your voice, and convinced yourself it’s love.  You’ve made yourself smaller so they wouldn’t feel threatened.  You’ve swallowed your truth so you didn’t have to deal with another argument. And somewhere along the way, you disappeared. 🫥 Now you’re a shell of yourself. 🐚 You catch yourself…

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